My dearest and I were lying in bed last night talking about our relationship and our dynamics. In the conversation, what we really were trying to solve, or at least work on, is my hunger and my need to feel more control from him and how we could go about that. He mentioned that he felt like he took MUCH control sometimes (not that it bothers him- but he knows he can be overbearing sometimes if he doesn't curb his...um...leadership skills). I explained to him that I personally thought he took very little control. This was a pretty significant difference of opinion and we were a bit baffled at first. After about three years of talking about DD and control, and the like, we finally were able to simply put a finger on why we felt so differently about the exact same situation.